“Comparison is the thief of joy.”
I remember the first time I heard that quote. It was like a light bulb suddenly connected. So many struggles started to make sense. I was in a dark place. I wanted to be where all these other people were and I was really struggling to embrace my present state of life and find joy in the present. I’ve since come a long way from those college days, but I still fall back into my days of feeling like the “queen of comparison”. Lately, I have been in one of those periods. A lot of lately has to do with body image, which is a new comparison struggle, but I want to share with you some of my tips for overcoming these moments of comparison.
- Move your body. Take a walk. Step away from the moment, the situation, and get out of your head. Listen to your favorite podcast (I really like Quote of the Day when feeling down). Or make a “pick me up/feel good” playlist that gets you dancing around and lifts your mood.
- Practice Gratitude. Write down at least 3 things you’re grateful for. Do this in the moment, but I honestly recommend doing this every day. When I am practicing gratitude daily, my attitude throughout daily life is better. I am more joyful. When I do have a hard day, it’s not as hard as hard days used to be because my brain is trained to look for the good.
- Write down 3 things you love about yourself. Yep. You read that right. This was a new one for me back in September when I participated in and completed a wellness challenge group, but it drastically impacted my view of myself. It was a way for me to honor my mind, body, and spirit. It’s SUPER uncomfortable, but it has helped me learn to love myself so much.
- Remove the temptation. Okay, so honestly this is one I struggle with, but I know it’s important. I keep thinking I want to delete social media off my phone for a month. I’ve been really struggling with comparison when it comes to social media. If something is causing you harm – mind or body or soul, remove it. Remove the temptation. Struggling with comparison, remove what it is that is tempting you to compare, especially if it is leaving you feeling less than. Unfortunately, this is easier said than done, but it’s possible. I promise.
- Remember you are uniquely you. No one has the gifts you have. No one has the heart you have. No one else has the body you have. No one else has the exact passion as you. You have your own special gifts and talents that you get to bring into the world and share with others, and that’s a beautiful thing.
So here’s the thing – other people can be a source of inspiration or a pathway for comparison and self-destruction.
Okay, I’m gonna go super basic white girl here, but I love Rachel Hollis. I love the stories she shares. I love the honesty she has. I love the encouragement she gives. I love the lessons she shares. Rachel Hollis is a woman I look up to. She is a resource I turn to, and through her books and podcasts I have learned and gained so much from her. My friend Kelsey is an inspiration to me. She is so passionate about what she does and she gives the best practical tools. She is encouraging and driven, and she is one often reminds me why I started this blog in the first place. I have a coworker who makes taking care of herself a priority. She is loving, passionate, caring, and truly inspiring in the effort she puts into herself and loving others well. These are the people I try to follow on social media. These are the types of people to surround yourself with. But I also recognize that each of these women has their own unique set of passions, gifts, and talents, but the way the share and the work they do encourages and inspires me to keep showing up and doing the things I love.
Be aware of who you’re following, and how the impact and effect you. Are the people you follow on social media a source of inspiration, encouragement, motivation, and hope? Or are they leading you down a pathway of feeling less than, and like your efforts are futile?